This month has felt like 3 years. COVID-19 has been the star of the month; bringing with it more media consumption and more anxiety than I have felt in years.
At the beginning of this month, we visited Los Angeles as part of Katie's spring break. If I'm honest, the overall feeling while being there was one of anxiety. It was at the beginning of the COVID-19 outbreak (which, honestly now feels so simple). Cases were just starting to appear around the country and specifically in L.A. It's crazy to think we debated not going because there were 15 cases or so. Now an area with less than 500 feels safe.
Part of the reason it felt so anxiety-producing to be there was because of the constant attention to the virus and because we felt so close to it. At that point, there had been 0 cases in MN, which I think made us feel inherently safer. The proximity of everything in LA - people, cars, traffic, etc. - also contributed to the anxiety. It's crazy to think that we were just riding around town, stopping at shops to eat, and generally feeling like, "ah, this ain't so bad. This will go away, just give it time."
It was really fun to see my family and spend time with each of them. Even though I was ready to go by the end of the week, I was still sad to go (per usual). I love my family. I love spending time with them and getting the chance to settle into what feels like a "normal" time at home. I know my family is harder for Katie, but I appreciate the time we get to spend.
Once we got back things really seemed to kick into gear. COVID cases started going up, cities started to shut down, and life got very full here at Bethel. We planned and planned and planned for all students to move out of housing. I was on the phone way too much and in the office way too late. I was stressed and constantly thinking and making quick decisions. Professionally speaking, I was very impressed with myself and others saw that too. I know I can be the type of leader and worker who makes quick decisions and this entire process really brought that out. I worked really well in tandem with Jim, Jodie, Miranda, Alicia, and Dr. Washington. I felt like my input was heard and that I added value to the conversations we were having. If there was ever a doubt in me about leading through uncertain and rapidly changing times, I think I dispelled some of that over the last two weeks. It's hard to believe it's only been two weeks. Again, it feels like 3 years.
The hardest thing for me has been being thrust into a new "normal" where absolutely nothing feels as it should be. I sense a loss of security. A loss of routine and habits. A loss of motivation. Those lost spaces have been filled with anxiousness and worry. I worry about the people I love and care about in Los Angeles. I worry they'll get it. I worry the city will not be able to control it. I worry that too many people are not taking it seriously. I worry and worry and worry.
When it comes down to it, the truth is I am scared. I'm scared for my family, friends, and what this virus is doing to all of us mentally and emotionally. I wish I wasn't scared. I wish I could be "stronger." But this is what I've got right now.
I recently heard a saying on the radio that has, at a minimum, given me a second to pause and breathe. The saying is this:
This will be okay or this will pass.
The idea is simple: COVID-19 and the numbers, the deaths, the fear, and the worry - it will be okay and maybe not as bad as every.single.article seems to be predicting.
Or
Things will be heard for a while. People will be hurt and sad and worried and challenged. AND it will come to pass.
I will never again take for granted a high five, toilet paper, sporting events, handshakes, and much, much more.
May we be kinder friends, more community-minded people, patient neighbors, and humble learners in the coming weeks and months.